Sitting Vigil

Ease someone you care about into their death as peacefully as possible.

It isn’t always easy to witness an end-of-life transition. Death doulas sit vigil and help to create a peaceful and loving space for this sacred time.

You can, too.

Don't Just Do Something, Stand There

How do I hold space with someone at the very end of their life? By doing just that, sitting with someone quietly.

I have been doing this for years. But more than training or experience, sitting vigil requires me to trust myself to respond appropriately to anything that may happen. I let go of any expectations I may have for this person's experience, and stay open to whatever occurs.

I'm not trying to change or fix anything.

Do this by leaning in, staying curious, and exploring one or more of the following options.

Take a Moment

Before walking into the room, center yourself.

When I do this, it helps me to mentally prepare for what’s ahead. I usually close my eyes. Then I breathe deeply and clear my mind. It may take a few seconds or a few minutes.

Take however long you need to relax and feel ca…